One of the lessons I have learned, or perhaps I should say have begin to apply, is to just flow through it. There are so many strategies available in all the self help books, but at the end of the day we still need to flow through the more difficult parts of our life. Many years ago while still working in my business I realized that if I took the time with my clients, help them rebuild their core strength, help them not only understand it intellectually (mind), but helped them feel it (embody) they could withstand the path forward to being stronger, more flexible and certainly more physically capable. When the physically stressors of sport or day to day life would show up, they intuitively knew how to navigate the challenges and come out the other side with little or no risk of injury, being much more graceful in how they moved.
I took that idea into the mental aspect of who we are, and following the same concept, first understand how our mind works and how the mind can store...
I was thinking about this today and after chewing on it for a while I had some interesting clarity, or it could total crap, I am sure you will let me know, on why many of us, myself included, do not ask for or reach out for the things we want. I wondered is it because I don’t believe I deserve it, that the why was out my league or was it something else? As I explored the idea a bit more I came across a new awareness that “some of the reasons” not all them, for me not pursing different goals or “whys” was not that I didn’t want them, it was that I was not prepared to deal with the rejection or ridicule that I feared would arise in pursuit of that goal.
This was quite a new awareness of a long-standing problem that was cleverly disguised as “I don’t have the time for that” or “It isn’t really not my thing” or “that looks a waste of time”. So allowing ourselves to be held back by our own negative...
I have been listening to an amazing speaker "Brene Brown" who is a qualitative researcher in the area of social work. She became very well-known after her Ted Talks on the topic of shame. What I loved about her message was that she spoke as an intellect, meaning that her message was more objective than subjective, or more simply said, it was information that was based on facts that were qualified as to their validity rather than just a popular opinion that resonated with the masses.
After listening to numerous seminars, audio books, one part really stood out for me, and is was the conversation on why we judge others. During her research, what she had discovered the "judgment" was an occurrence when someone in our world happened to be doing a bit worse than ourselves at that very moment. The judgment was a reaction to the behavior of another, and as Carl Jung so wonderfully stated "that which irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves". If we were in a...
One of my long-standing endeavors in life is to figure “shit out” or perhaps more succinctly, try to make sense of the sea of information that we currently find ourselves awash in. For over 25 years I have pulled apart and dug into information on herbalism, applied kinesiology, philosophy, physics, physiology, neurology ect... if has an “ology” on the end of it, I looked into it. The reason I guess for the endless search was a byproduct of finding limitations in everything I read, in that there was not “one thing” that solved everything. But what was interesting was if you were of the right mindset, meaning that you knew what you were looking for, and had an idea of direction you wanted to move in, what you were looking for would eventually make itself known, or not. It seems that it all depends on your point of view and the questions we are asking from that space.
One author who I have enjoyed reading, Dr. David Hawkins, suggested that...
Okay, now I know this is a big question and I don’t propose to be able to answer it for you, but I think if I keep asking I will find teachers coming across my path to teach me the lesson I need to learn. I think it was Wayne Dyer who said in one of his books that everyone we meet is our teacher, and the gifts that bring may be badly wrapped. Is it possible that from the people who wronged us, the events of our lives we would rather not ever think about again, can there be a gift, a lesson we needed to learn?? At first glance it would be a resounding “NO”, how could there be a gift in abuse, violence, abandonment, betrayal, and all the other things one can be exposed to and forced to endure along life’s journey? A wise person once suggest that when we decided to enter into this world we signed a sacred contract with those who bore us, with those who came in and out of our life to bring us their gifts, however badly wrapped. The sacred contract we signed...
Over the course of my life I have been compelled to seek for truths, answers to questions that haunted my mind, solutions to the riddle of happiness, and to find the path through the maze of life. I am not sure where this drive comes from, perhaps it is from witnessing what is wrong in the world first hand and having faith that there must be more to life than this. My journey has taken me all over the world, different cultures, and into the minds of various sages and authors who dispense their wisdom in the pages of the many books now resting on my shelves. Through time and introspection, I believe I have found a few simple truths that has made my journey simpler. I have divided my life into three basic quest, the first one of gaining physical mastery, the second gaining life mastery and the third is understanding the 2nd law of thermodynamics. Now at first it may seem a bit convoluted but stick with me and let’s see what this could all mean.
The search for physical mastery...
I have a book on my coffee table called the “Selfish Gene”, and though I have not yet gone through its pages as of yet, my mind was playing around with the title and the possible ramifications of indeed, our genes are ”selfish”. I remember a conversation with someone about 3 years ago who achieved three degrees before the age of 27 and looked at the world in a very analytical way, and they dissected it all down to base level. What came out of the conversation was interesting in that we looked at the driver behind many human needs and desires, and from one vantage point it would appear that most, if not all, human tendencies are driven by a self-serving mechanism. For example, when we look at generosity, the act of giving of one’s self in money, deed or time, causes our brain to give us a little spike of dopamine, which makes us feel good, and if we feel good by acting in such a manner, then we would probably repeat the process, but for the act itself or...
I spent the first half of my life not knowing that life could be different, then spend the next portion living in fear and mistrust afraid that the worst part of me would be dragged out into the light for all to see. Even when trying to leave the ghost behind, they would show up from time to time reminding me of my unworthiness to have a better life, to be happy. Even those closest to me would remind me of my poor beginnings and the path I traveled suggesting that I had a permanent flaw that could not be undone. It wasn’t until I started to study great works from Dr. Dyer, Robert Holden and other great writers, that I discovered three important things..
1) That which others incriminate you for speaks more about their need to judge and incriminate than your supposed sin. When the actions of others bother you, it is a sign to look inside and see where your growth is lacking.
2) Life is about contrast. What I mean is simply this, we need to have a series of experiences that we can...
As I watch the setting of the sun
My thoughts drift to contemplating
Of how and why I am here
Is there really an answer to questions I pose
Life offers more questions it seems
As my thoughts turn inward
Searching my soul for answers
As to where do I belong
I know what I do
But I do not know who I am
I know the functions I serve
But is there a bigger plan
Who is the man that is
The lover and the father
The son and the scholar
The leader and the follower
The questions I ask are to small it seems
For the roles we all play
Are much larger than our small minds
Could every comprehend
So I relax into my thoughts
Knowing that the divine will always provide
The path and the tools that will take me
To the place that I belong
I already home
C. David Gilks Your Fellow Traveler
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