Affected Realism and Intimacy
My interest in neuroscience began many years ago when I was helping people reclaim their health. I noticed a connection between how we interpret physical and emotional pain, which led me to some fascinating insights. The most important thing I realized is that we all have a choice when it comes to pain—whether it’s physical or emotional. We can either let it overwhelm us or seek ways to stabilize ourselves, both physically and emotionally. These seem to be the two paths available to us.
But I didn't Know...
In a world of complexity, it is easy to say, "I didn't know how." Last night, I sat with a group of clients, discussing how the mind will push us away from exerting effort or changing our behavior if the cost of change seems too high. Our brains constantly weigh the cost of implementing a new behavior against our current lifestyle and way of thinking, and if the costs seem too high, then it will be difficult for us to change.
This seems counterproductive, seeing that change can often be not only very good for us but necessary for our health and happiness.
This happens typically because the potential pain we may experience from changing limiting behaviors and relationships will cloud our judgment and inhibit our capacity to make necessary changes in our lives. So it is inaccurate to say, "I didn't know," but more truthful to say, "I don't want to know."
The vision for a new and brighter future must be clear and meditated on daily to overcome the limitations of our natural fear of
...The Other Side of the Coin
An interesting idea came to me this morning as I read the book “The Big Leap”. The author spoke of anxiety showing up on the heels of a good or positive event or thought and he wanted to explore why that was. What he had realized that he had an “upper limit” to what his unconscious psychology would allow him to believe.
So when things were going good there was an emotional thermostat that was triggered and sent him messages that he was in an area of belief that conflicted the hidden messages in his unconscious mind.
Part of the trick was to quickly realize what was happening and to look underneath the surface of that negative emotion and to see what positive emotion was trying to come through.
Next, check in to see where the emerging positive emotion is showing up in your body, and settle into that new feeling for a few minutes.
As that good feeling emerges pay attention to the story that comes with it, and allow yourself to appreciate with gratitude what is coming up for you...
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David Gilks
Mindset Expert
David Gilks is a well-respected mindset coach, poet, successful entrepreneur, awarded competitive natural bodybuilder, chartered herbalist and MEDP (medical exercise program director). He holds advanced training in Neurolinguistics and is the founder of the I AM Project. For more than two decades, he has taught clients from numerous backgrounds all over the world how to gain true mastery in all aspects of their life.
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