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Rev Deacon

Ravings of a Mad Man

SEX...
09 January 2004, A Perfect Moment...
 

A PERFECT NOW...

DEAR FRIENDS-

This Raving has been working in my mind for about three or four months now. It is not a usual subject that is discussed by spiritual people; but, in my mind it has a great deal to do with spirituality. We have placed such bad meanings on the word through time that it is seldom thought of with religion, philosophy or spirituality... or it is avoided.

In religion, if one is a single person, one is supposed to avoid sex. You are supposed to be married to participate in it. It is a sin to have sex when not married. Well, that means that I would have been celibate since 1978 except for one year during my second marriage. Yikes! And, as a Minister, I would really be in trouble with God... under that thinking.

Personally, I have been sexually active all my life. Some have said I am over sexed. By my beliefs, I have been under sexed. For you see, I do not look at sex in the ways others do. However, I looked up the word 'sex' in my huge Consolidated Webster Dictionary and all it makes reference to is the distinction between the male and the female gender. In the small more modern pocket one it does the same. However, in the small one, which again is more modern, it makes reference to: The urge or instinct to copulate. This is the only real reference which defines anything to the act of 'sex'. Interesting... But, if you bring up the subject in a group of individuals, the minds would not consider the distinction between the male and female gender. They would immediately be thinking about the act of 'sex'... and probably all sorts of jokes would run through the minds... or many would say, "How nasty of you to bring up the subject. Shame!", or much worse. And, imagine what would happen if you brought it up in Church. Yet, church is exactly where it should be talked about.

Let's examine the benefits of sex. Usually, we participate in sex with some one we like... we care for... at least, I am accepting it this way. I am not talking about a one night stand; however, the benefits are the same... just not as strengthening. I, personally, made a decision in my early single days to only participate in the activity of sex with someone I have proven a friendship. But, I can still, from memory, relate to the one night stands. So, we are dealing with two people who have at least a fondness for each other.

At this point, I would like to ask a question of those reading this, "How many of you invite Spirit into the bedroom with you?" I would be willing to bet that several do not give any thought to this. I am sure that regardless of how much spiritual studies you have done... how spiritual you say you are... that most of you would reject this idea. Why?... Because of the negative brain-washing you have received through the years? God does not approve of sex? Yet, why not invite Spirit into your bedroom? Do we truly want to incorporate Spirit into our whole lives? And, what other activity does one do that brings another's Spirit in this close proximity? A hug?... and only for a second or two. Reminds me of, "Where there are two or more gathered together, there I AM." So, Spirit is definitely more present when there are two gathered together. And, Spirit is present when two are sharing the act of sex. Whether you invite it or not. So, for those among you that have guilt because you are not married... Spirit was there and watching!... but, not judging.

But, what about when we do purposely invite Spirit into the bedroom with us? When we purposely recognize what we are about to share... our urge or instinct... which could be from Spirit or Ego? Well, we should know the answer to that very quickly if we have invited Spirit there with us. But again, I must relate that it does not matter. The benefits are the same... just not as powerful.

Well, for one you are healing each other. This may be the greatest benefit of all. Not just the physical part of you, but also the mental part of you. First, someone is placing their hands on your body, and touch from another always heals... regardless of how long that touch is. Second, the approval of another by their touch affects our ego. It brings a pleasure and an appreciation of enJOYment to our minds. Third, if we are conscious of it, it brings us into harmony with Spirit. Love always does that. And, regardless of the feelings for the other person, love does enter into it. In reality, Spirit is more there at the moment than any other moment of our lives. But, again if we are consciously aware of it, it becomes more powerful. There are two Spirits interacting besides the two bodies. Some believe, as I do, that the Spirit extends out from our bodies. It is apparent when viewing auras. So, what do you think is happening with the Spirit part of the two of you when you are that close?... sharing such a dear experience?... entwined?

Sex is one of the most powerful ways we can bring Spirit into our lives. Unfortunately, the church and society has gone to great efforts in creating fear with it. It is a subject that we joke about a lot, but very seldom have a serious talk about. So, sex is also an untapped way of growing in our spirituality.

Again, unfortunately, with our attitudes about sex, we miss the opportunity to make that part of our spirituality. Fear is the enemy. Living with the influence of others again is the culprit. Fortunately, I overcame the influence of this years ago. Although, I did not really understand the full potential... I knew that sex was not the dirty thing my parents, ministers, and teachers warned me about. Through the years I have come to realize how powerful it was in bringing me closer to the spiritualness I desired.

I find it interesting... that friends say they love each other, but do not share in the action of sex. I know that it is because that most people feel that they have been unsuccessful with their mating experiences and loose that person from their lives. And, that they do not want to cross over into a sexual relationship with their friends because it may lead to a mating experience and then it may not make it and they will loose their best friend. I say to you, then who do you sleep with... your enemies? And, if the person is your best friend you should have the ability to work through it... redefine your relationship... and continue to be best friends. Course that takes a lot of honesty in your communication. But, best friends are supposed to have that between them.

Spirit put us down here to learn and enJOY while we were learning. Although, we must be respectful when considering sex with another... respect of self and respect of the other... my ideas of respect in both directions have changed immensely. It is not a thought of should I have sex with this person because it is right or wrong by others standards, it is the thought of are we friends enough to have sex... are we willing to heal each other.... will we honor the action... are we willing to invite Spirit into the bedroom. Not because we are afraid, but because we are focused, centered, living in the light. I am not inviting Spirit into the bedroom for approval... it approves of anything I do. Remember, Spirit has no judgment, only humans do. Spirit wants me to enJOY. I also think that Spirit would like to be invited to participate... in whatever I do.

When someone says to you that you probably need to get laid. Well, you probably do. If you have been acting in a manner that brings that kind of statement, you most likely do. But, it is not necessarily in the thinking they are thinking. You actually need to be in close proximity of someone so that Spirit is greater. Even if you are weak in Spirit, your partner may be strong in Spirit. Either way Spirit is strongest when there are two gathered together. By inviting Spirit there with you... Wow! Do we reap the benefits.

Another question: "Do you give Thanks after the action?" We talk about saying Thanks for everything else. But, do we actually think about Thanks in this instance? Probably not. Again, the influence of others is the culprit. Fear is the enemy. If we believe we just did something wrong, we certainly are not going to thank Spirit. Yet, we all know the benefits of giving Thanks.

Personally, I believe that for me to create the Harmony I desire between my Ego and my Spirit, that it must be in everything I experience. If I am with a friend and we feel "the urge or instinct" to join in the action of sex, I am going to proceed with the knowing that Spirit approves. We are going to invite Spirit into our activities with gladness. We are going to let all the power of Spirit being present effect us. We will share our love and the healings it will bring about. We will give Thanks when we are laying there in each others arms feeling JOYfull and at Peace and Harmony. We will relish in this Oneness. We will definitely make it a Spiritual Experience... even more so now. And, SO IT IS!

I truly pray that each of you will think about what is shared here... and, even what is not shared here... for I am sure I have overlooked items. I pray that you will take the time to think about what you really believe about the action of sex. Have you allowed the influence of others to make your beliefs? Have you allowed the fears to keep you from sharing your body in Spirit?... especially when you need a healing. I share what I believe... it is right for me. You have to decide whether it is right for you.

Namaste' Love, Rev DEACON

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